My mom used to say, "When you point at someone else, you have three fingers pointing back at you." That's the best argument for an internal locus of control I've ever heard.
This post originally appeared on the Hermit Haus Redevelopment website on 2018-06-23.
Do you ever feel that the universe is conspiring against you? No matter what happens, something goes wrong so that it doesn't work out the way you want?
Every now and then, we all encounter situations like this. How we react to them is usually based on what psychologists call "locus of control."
People with a strongly internal locus of control:
- Believe they are fully in charge of their destiny
- Take responsibility for their actions and mistakes
- Actively take corrective actions
People with a strongly external locus of control believe that their fate is in the hands of fate (or something else). The events in their lives "just happen to them."
Most of us fall somewhere along the line between these two extremes.
Right now, we have a contractor we are having a lot of trouble getting paid. Our goal is to pay our contractors fairly and quickly on completion of the job. We've sent two checks to this contractor, both of which have gotten lost in the mail. (He's in a distant city, and the work was done on one of our investment properties there.) He did his work promptly and well. We tried to pay quickly, but....
Last night we tried to wire the money to him, but his bank rejected the transfer. We have verified all of the information twice, even three or four times now.
I have a very internal locus of control, but I'm starting to feel that this situation is out of my hands.
What would you do to resolve this problem?
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